By Henry Preza
Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her; and if a woman divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery. — Matthew 10:11-12
Infidelity is a destructive force that causes immense pain and leaves deep scars on all involved. That's why fidelity is a value that God blesses and defends.
Those who have fallen into infidelity often resort to various strategies to avoid being discovered. Even when confronted, they seek to make their actions seem normal to avoid judgment. One of the cruelest tactics is to make the faithful spouse feel guilty. The woman, in particular, should not accept this burden, as she is never responsible for her husband's betrayal.
1. "I suffered a lot and had no other choice"
Cheaters often present themselves as victims. They claim that, due to circumstances, they had no other option but to be unfaithful. When their partner confronts them, they directly blame them for "leading" them to make that decision. In this way, they seek to weaken the wife so that she feels the guilt of the adultery falls on her. The truth is that no marital problem justifies adultery. The duty is to seek solutions together, through communication and mutual effort. Don't believe that lie; it's an old and worn-out excuse.
2. "You didn't behave like someone worthy of it"
This is another manipulative phrase used to blame the partner. The cheater magnifies mistakes or invents faults that never existed. A clear example is when a husband who constantly mistreats his wife with insults uses a moment when she reacts with anger to justify his subsequent infidelity. Through the constant repetition of these phrases, the cheater manages to emotionally destroy their spouse. This is why many women, when seeking counseling, blame themselves without realizing they've been victims of this manipulation.
3. "I stopped loving you because it was your fault"
Some men try to blame the woman for the loss of love. They even "prepare" her emotionally so that, when the infidelity comes to light, there won't be problems, according to their logic. But love isn't just a feeling that fades; it's a decision made every day. It's a choice, just like the decision Christ made to love us and save us.
4. "In my circumstances, being unfaithful isn't wrong"
By making the woman feel guilty, the cheater deceives themselves, believing their action is justifiable. However, God doesn't approve of it. In the Bible, fidelity is a fundamental pillar of marriage:
"Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice with the wife of your youth, as a loving deer and a graceful doe; let her breasts satisfy you at all times; and always be enraptured with her love." — Proverbs 5:19
And Jesus was clear about it:
"Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her; and if a woman divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery." — Matthew 10:11-12
There's no reason that justifies adultery. Nor is there any reason for a woman suffering from her husband's infidelity to feel guilty. This tactic is as old as Satan. Therefore, the woman shouldn't devalue herself or lose hope, which is found by seeking God through prayer and understanding her true position before God.
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